An Oscar, a Grammy, millions of copies sold worldwide and people went to the cinema en masse to see the entire film. Almost everyone can easily sing along to “Let it go“, one of the songs from the animated film “Frozen”.
Today, June 23, is international “Let it go” day, a day to reflect on the fact that you should be able to leave regrets and negative feelings about choices behind you and set your sights on the future.
In his book “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” Stephen Covey makes a distinction between your circle of concerns and your circle of influence/control. Even common sense makes it clear that you should mainly spend your energy on things you can actually influence/control. Because otherwise, of course, there is little point. I hear you thinking…’Easier said than done’.
Some people ponder when they are not satisfied with a situation. An (uncontrollable) pessimistic thought pattern prevails. These thoughts can be of all kinds such as negative experiences from the past, personal worries (finances or health) or fear of social developments. In the case: when brooding, our rational reasoning ability goes on strike and the flow of thoughts cannot be tamed. Consequently, we cannot reason towards a solution and rather think in ‘ impossibilities’.
It is therefore important to be aware of this. Because once the awareness is there, resilience arises to deal with it.
These 7 tips will help you to consciously fight against unjustified worries and to let go where necessary:
1. Energizers/contributors: What relaxes you? What causes you stress? Dare to make decisions to focus on the right thing.
2. Eat healthy and exercise: Keep an exercise/eating journal for a week and analyze what makes you feel good/bad. Change bad habits overnight.
3. Attention to sleep: Install healthy sleep habits. Know your needs and listen to them.
4. Don’t worry, be happy: Write down three things that went well each day.
5. Dare to pause: Pause and do nothing. Observe your thoughts and feelings.
6. Out of comfort, into learning zone: Do something new regularly and keep your mind flexible.
7. Surround yourself with people who are good to you: Who has your best interests at heart? Who opens up to you? Who makes you feel good?
Do you want to work on this yourself? Hey good news, you can influence this all by yourself 😉 And would you like some support with this? Let’s get in touch!